Debating bikinis on toddlers can get ugly.
Some find it cute, some find it offensive. And it can lead to deeper conversations about feminism and sexuality.
Of course, we have some [differing] opinions on the subject… we are The Moms At Odds after all!
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Jo says, “Keep those toddlers bikini-free!”
For my toddler-aged daughter, bikinis are an absolute NO. We can reassess the situation when she’s a little older, but for now we’ll stick to more “kid-friendly” bathing suits.
I just want to add that by no means am I saying that there’s anything wrong with someone else’s child wearing a bikini. It’s just not a decision I would make for my own family.
Rash Guard Suits Provide UV Protection
Admittedly I’m kind of a freak about ultraviolet (UV) protection.
Too much sun (and therefore UV) exposure can cause skin damage, sometimes leading to cancer. In fact, UV radiation is the main cause of skin cancer. Not to mention sunburn.
In my house, we start lessons on sun protection early. Starting with hats and sunglasses, even on the babies!
FYI – He’s wearing Julbo Baby Sunglasses, which is by far the best brand for infant sunglasses!
When my kids are older, we continue the trend of UV protection by giving them bathing suits that cover as much skin as possible. And, of course, continue with the hats and sunglasses.
We LOVE the RuffleButts swimsuits. That’s the suit Lily is rocking in the picture above.
RuffleButts is a great company – founded by a woman who was inspired after watching an inspirational episode of Oprah. Their goal is to provide high-quality and affordable products that inspire joy.
And I personally can attest to that, they have adorable products that are very reasonably priced. But my favorite thing? All of their bathing suits are UPF 50+.
I always get bathing suits that cover the shoulders and at least part of their arms. The rest of the exposed skin is lathered in Thinkbaby Sunscreen. (Yes, even though my kids aren’t technically “babies” anymore).
Most sunscreens have tons of chemicals in them that can be dangerous. Unfortunately, many of the more “natural” sunscreens aren’t effective. Thankfully we have Thinkbaby, which is a perfect mix of both worlds.
Thinkbaby doesn’t have any of the harmful chemicals (it’s been #1 rated by the Environmental Working Group for years), is easy to apply (ie. non-greasy), and works GREAT.
Anyway, back to bathing suits. Teaching the importance of UV protection is important for all kids, starting at the young ages. And my UV rules (t-shirt, hat, etc.) apply to both my daughter and son:
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We Keep Our Toddlers Modest
It’s so hard for me to explain this point. On one hand, I want to teach my daughter to love her body… but the other part of me realizes that there’s a difference between how the world should work and how it actually does.
Look, I’ll just say it. Something about a 2-year-old wearing a bikini is weird to me. I’m sorry!
I know bikinis don’t have to be sexual, but it’s something I associate with being sexy.
Most toddlers are too young to ask for a bikini. They wear whatever bathing suit mom picks out for them.
If my daughter asked for a bikini, that would be another story altogether. However, I don’t feel comfortable displaying her body without her consent. I find it inappropriate.
This is her time to be a kid, she has plenty of bikini-wearing years ahead of her.
Rachel says, “Let them wear bikinis!”
I just do not see the big deal about toddlers in bikinis.
I mean, I’ve seen many toddlers on beaches in nothing more than a diaper.
What is it about a bikini that people find inappropriate? The amount of skin? The “adultness” of the suit?
It’s just a bathing suit. I don’t get it.
Two-piece bathing suits are easier. Who really wants to wrestle a squirmy toddler out of a wet one piece for a diaper change? And once they’re potty training, it’s even more important to be able to get that bottom off quickly.
I want to be body positive
I know they’re young, but I think it’s important to teach body positivity from the beginning.
Why should we tell girls that there is anything wrong or shameful about their bodies?
Toddler boys and girls look pretty much the same with diapers on, so why would the girl’s body be inappropriate?
If a toddler girl is running around in just swim trunks, you would have no clue. No one would care if they assumed she was a little boy.
Come on people, a bikini shows a stomach and back… those are not even private parts, why on earth is that inappropriate?
I don’t see any reasons to start planting ideas of insecurity or body shame so young. Most girls deal with self-consciousness most of their lives. I’d rather try to combat this by instilling confidence starting young.
Toddlers in bikinis are adorable, not sexual
By saying things like “bikinis are inappropriate” or “too sexual” for toddlers we’re reinforcing those ideas.
There is nothing sexual about a toddler in a bikini.
The bikini doesn’t sexualize a child. It’s the adults who do that. Let’s not blame the garment for a people problem.
Are there perverts and creeps out there? Absolutely. Do I really think pedophiles only look for children in bikinis? Seems unlikely.
If they’re attracted to children, does the adult bathing suit matter that much? If someone finds a toddler sexy, they have a problem, the clothes are irrelevant.
Unfortunately, there are sickos who will “sexualize” children regardless of what they are wearing. As parents, we can either never leave the house or do our best to be vigilant.
I have to admit that I don’t really think this should even be a thing.
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